Thank you for looping me into this. While it's sort of sad to see that other people are running into these problems in their fandoms as well, it's reassuring at the same time. Other people want positive spaces and experiences, so there's a community to be part of right there.

>>Fandom wank does not bring itself.<< Wise and also amusing!

I think I'll take some time to update my profile here to reflect my fandom values. I've always loved the living room/office metaphor of your blog--it's a great model.