>>While it's sort of sad to see that other people are running into these problems in their fandoms as well, it's reassuring at the same time. Other people want positive spaces and experiences, so there's a community to be part of right there.<<
Yeah, nobody chooses to be a victim -- but they do have a choice about whether to stay in a recreational venue that lets people hurt them. Moderators have a choice about what to permit or to block. Webcoders have all kinds of choices about how they build venues and what tools to include. Our lives are made of choices, and so are the worlds we create.
>> I think I'll take some time to update my profile here to reflect my fandom values. <<
Then I have accomplished something worthy by inspiring people to take action. snowflake_challenge is an ideal opportunity, because many folks look at other participants' profiles during it.
>> I've always loved the living room/office metaphor of your blog--it's a great model. <<
Yay! I also want to spread the idea of blog metaphors so that people can choose theirs mindfully. It's a very important way of communicating expectations and interactions without needing to go into exhausting detail. People behave differently in a living room/office than a street fair or a story circle under a tree.
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Re: Try this ...
Date: 2020-01-19 08:45 pm (UTC)I'm glad I could help.
>>While it's sort of sad to see that other people are running into these problems in their fandoms as well, it's reassuring at the same time. Other people want positive spaces and experiences, so there's a community to be part of right there.<<
Yeah, nobody chooses to be a victim -- but they do have a choice about whether to stay in a recreational venue that lets people hurt them. Moderators have a choice about what to permit or to block. Webcoders have all kinds of choices about how they build venues and what tools to include. Our lives are made of choices, and so are the worlds we create.
>> I think I'll take some time to update my profile here to reflect my fandom values. <<
Then I have accomplished something worthy by inspiring people to take action.
>> I've always loved the living room/office metaphor of your blog--it's a great model. <<
Yay! I also want to spread the idea of blog metaphors so that people can choose theirs mindfully. It's a very important way of communicating expectations and interactions without needing to go into exhausting detail. People behave differently in a living room/office than a street fair or a story circle under a tree.